Saturday, January 21, 2017

Good Habits

More from Mr. Bradberry. I try to combine lists of similar topics. I read and type and post in an effort to internalize these things my own self. These are things normal, well-adjusted people do.
Habits of considerate people: being kind and considerate softens people, and helps them see your way of thinking. It’s also good for your health.
1 Show up on time. Arriving late sends the clear message that your time is more important than everyone else’s. Even if you really think that, you don’t have to broadcast it. Show up when you say you will.
2. Be empathic. Change your behavior to accommodate the feelings of others, or provide tangible help in a tough situation.
3. Apologize when you need to – and don’t when you don’t.
4. Smile. It makes others feel better. People mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to.
5. Mind your manners. Focus on how the other person feels, not on how you feel. Puts others at ease.
6. Be emotionally intelligent. Use self-control. Just because you feel bad doesn’t mean you can’t act good.

7. Try to find a way for everyone to win. Stop thinking of every interaction as a win/lose scenario.
8. Act on your intuition when it comes to other people’s needs. If you think someone is having a bad day, ask them how they’re doing. They’ll appreciate your concern.
Habits of irresistible people, whose self-worth comes from within, not from others:
1. Focus on people more than anything else. Focus on what others are saying – not what your response will be, or how what they’re saying will affect you. When people tell you something about themselves, follow up with open-ended questions to draw them out more.
2. Be authentic. No agenda. No one likes a fake.
3. Find reasons to love life. Be positive and passionate, not bored. Approach problems as temporary obstacles, not inescapable fate. A bad day is just one day. Tomorrow will be better.
4. Ditch the small talk. Amen. Prevents a connection from forming. Small talk puts your brain on autopilot. Ask good questions.

5. Treat everyone with respect. Be polite. No matter how nice you are to the person you’re having lunch with, it’s all for naught if that person sees you acting badly toward someone else. Don’t think you are better than others.
6. Have integrity. Walk your talk. Follow through. Don’t talk bad about others. Do the right thing, even when it hurts.
7. Don’t try too hard. Don’t dominate the conversation with stories about how smart and successful you are. Don’t brag.
8. Make the effort to look your best – just not too much of an effort. Be presentable, but not vain. Don’t overthink it.
9. Recognize the difference between fact and opinion. Handle controversial topics and touchy subjects with grace and poise. Don’t shrink from sharing opinions, but make it clear they are opinions, not facts. Irresistible people recognize many people just as intelligent as they are see things differently. That’s a big problem on social media.
Habits that will dramatically improve your life. The people experiencing the greatest job satisfaction are those who approach work as a calling. Our habits make us, so cultivate habits that send you in the right direction.
1. Stay away from people who erode your quality of life. Every time you find yourself thinking about someone who makes your blood boil, practice being grateful for someone else in your life instead.
2. No more phone/tablet/computer in bed. The blue light harms sleep and productivity.    
3. Appreciate the here and now. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you need something you don’t currently have in order to be happy. If you can’t appreciate what you have now, you won’t ever be able to appreciate “the good life” should you ever get it.
4. Realize things aren’t always as you perceive them to be. That person you envy because they seem to have the perfect life might be dealing with all kinds of problems behind closed doors.    
5. Get started, even though you might fail. You can edit a bad page, but you can’t edit a blank page.
6. Get organized. Disorganization is a time-waster.
7. Start a collection of the things that truly resonate with you. Quotes, memes, etc. For me it’s my blog, or Instagram. Pinterest would be another good place.
8. Do something that reminds you who you are. Make time for the activities that we feel most authentically ourselves doing, when all the masks are off and we can just be. They’re completely rejuvenating. For me it’s blogging, scrapbooking, thrifting, eBaying, and baseball games.
9. Say no. The harder it is for you to say no, the more likely it is you’ll experience stress, burnout, and depression – all of which erodes self-control. Avoid phrases like “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not sure.” Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments, and prevents the negative effects of over commitment.
10. Stick to realistic goals. When you fall short, instead of inspiration you feel disappointed and guilty.     

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